Tip of the Day: ‘These Aren’t the Droids We’re Looking for’

by Eubie on July 8, 2014

Recently, at the first International Conference on Men’s Issues (ICMI) held in Detroit and sponsored by the ‘A Voice for Men‘ website, we were reminded of a ‘real’ Jedi mind trick we learned in our youth, one you can practice at home that really works!

But first, a bit of background. You might find this surprising, but the word we heard being batted about the conference most frequently was ’empathy.’ Empathy!? Yeah, that’s right. Apparently, many of the presenters (and attendees) felt that Americans, especially young Americans, were increasingly narcissistic. Empathy, donchaknow, is the opposite of narcissism, and it can be cultivated. And, if you practice, soon you’ll be better able to empathize with others, and that, brothers, is the key to Jedi mind-trickery! The more empathetic you are towards others, the better you’ll be able to slip into their skins in order to understand them, and then… get them to do your bidding! Kidding, kidding, but in all seriousness, the better you understand others and how they see the world, the better you’ll be able to reach them, communicate with them and, hopefully, achieve mutually beneficial outcomes based on cooperation. That’s the idea, anyway. Give it a try for yourself.

Okay, the trick: when you are in a public place, look on others and, through deep concentration, get inside their heads. See the world through their eyes. Try to filter the world they see through the prism of their life experiences and all the biases those experiences might have bred. Do this every day, with someone who is a stranger or a friend, and over time, you will be able to ‘feel’ what it’s like to be them. The key is practice! You must make a conscious effort to ‘be’ that person, if you want to understand, and once you are able to slip seamlessly into their skins, you will develop a Jedi Master’s (Yoda-level) understanding of the human condition. Then you can sally forth and play mind games with those nasty Imperial Stormtroopers! Good luck!

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